What Is A “Good Dad” Anyways…..

I was talking to my friend today and he made a comment. I have heard this comment before and I honestly do enjoy hearing it… I think most dads want to hear it…. He said “Your a “Good” dad…. Some don’t know where to start to be a “good” dad…

Well on my way home from his house I began to ask, what makes a dad “Good”… What makes a dad “Bad”…. So I made a short list… Here it is:

1. The kids know that their dad loves their mom. NOW before you go and get all upset single dads…. Single dads it matters how you treat your “ex-wife”… She birthed your kids, there are more ways than physical to show your kids you love their mom. But this is important because your kids need a solid support system, and parents you ARE the CORE of that system….

2. You Fall Forward… This is a John Maxwell illustration, the idea is this, Dads you know that your going to make mistakes as a Husband and as a Father… But make them as you are being intentional in your relationships. Here is an example, I love to take my kids grocery shopping, its a blast… I run up and down the isles and I chase Joel behind the displays…. I really make the most of my time at store/playground while buying groceries…. Some people don’t like that… Some people won’t like anything you do because nobody took the time to care about them when they were a kid, its in there defense system to be mean… So I am in the checkout line and this is something I do a lot… I take Joel and I throw him down on the checkout belt and he rides toward the cashier… Well someone took a pretty big offense to that and they yelled at me… Of course this idea of falling forward must be tamed, but the principle is the same, don’t sit back and wait for life to pass you by… Make mistakes… Do it in a way that people notice your trying to be a better parent…

3. You Have FUN TOGETHER… Just because you don’t remember what is like to be 4 years old, doesn’t mean you have to ruin it for your kids too… Be reminded of how much fun it is to be young… You wont feel old after awhile… Just a warning… You probably don’t move like you used too.. You probably will feel it in the morning…

4. BEING CURIOUS… Ever wonder why kids ask so many questions… Me either it can be annoying… lol… Just kidding.. But your kids are learning SOO MUCH because they are not afraid to ask the most important question ever: WHY?!?! As many times as they ask you, WHY… YOU ASK THEM… Its fun and it their view on the world is often refreshing!!!

5. Your kids know you love them…. Again Love its about physical touch… Its a billion times more than just words…. You cant throw gifts at kids and expect them to know you love them… They will know you love them when you value them enough to spend time with them… There is no way around that… Time=Love….. You cant make enough money to by them happiness… Happiness comes through security and security comes through relationship which is only possible when you spend time together… And when you spend time together with your kid(s) they will know you love them…

Those are the quick five that I came up with… What about you? What would you say is a quality of a “Good” dad???

OH YEAH…. What makes a “bad” dad…selfishness & Knowing what your suppose to do and doing nothing….Or acting like any of the dads you see on “Comedy” TV Shows…

ALL THINGS NEW: IDENTITY IN CHRIST

IN CHRIST YOU ARE ACCEPTED:

John 1:12 – I am Gods’s child.

John 15:15 – I am Jesus Friend.

1 Corinthians 6:20 – I have been bought with a price. I belong to God.

1 Corinthians 12:27 – I am a member of Christ’s Body.

Ephesians 1:1 – I am a Saint.

Ephesians 1:5 – I have been adopted as God’s child.

Ephesians 2:18 – I have direct access to God through the Holy Spirit.

Colossians 1:14 – I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.

Colossians 2:10 – I am complete in Christ.

I Am Assured (Confident)

Romans 8:1,2 – I am free from condemnation.

Romans 8:28 – I am assured that All things work together for the good.

Romans 8:35-39 – I cannot be separated from the love of God.

Philippians 1:6 – I am confident that the good work God has begun in me will be perfected.

Philippians 3:20 – I am a citizen of Heaven.

2 Timothy 1:7 – I have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.

Hebrews 4:16 – I can find Grace and Mercy in time of need.

1 John 5:18 – I am Born of God and the Evil one cannot touch me.

I am Significant

John 15:16 – I have been choosen and appointed to bear fruit.

Acts 1:8 – I am a personal witness of Christ.

1 Corinthians 3:16 – I am Gods temple.

2 Corinthians 6:1 – I am Gods coworker.

Ephesians 2:10 – I am Gods workmanship.

Ephesians 3:12 – I may approach God with freedom and confidence.

Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

* This list was taken from Victory over the Darkness by Neil T. Anderson