Churchie Talk…

If what I say about my relationship with Jesus is what I believe about Him…
I don’t have to use “over spiritual” words to describe it…

Jesus is my Daddy… We hang out together, when He is with me I am fearless… When He is with me I have peace… When we are apart, I feel that, it sucks but I know He didn’t leave, I was to busy or to stubborn to spend time with my Daddy… He gives me little reminders throughout my day that He wants to connect, reconnecting with Dad is the best:-) I never want to leave His side…

Even if i don’t feel it right now, I am incredibly loved by my Dad…

It is my desire to be more real, more authentic, in how I describe my relationship with Jesus this year… After all “churchie words” are not the end result of a relationship with Jesus…

The end result of a relationship with Jesus is: love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, self control, kindness, goodness and faithfulness…

I want to have a relationship with Jesus people can notice and I can describe without needing a Christianity 101 class… I want to live loved…

Wrestling with Dad…

The other day Joel, our three year old, wanted to wrestle.
This is pretty normal he loves it… He can’t get enough… There is one problem…

He always looses…

Every time…
I win ALL wrestling matches ever….

But the other day I realized something, I might win every time….

That does not stop him from wrestling just as hard the next time….
No matter how quickly he lost, he gets up thinking “this could be the time that I win”…
He doesn’t look at his past failures, his miserable losses, he thinks he can win… Every time we face off..

Wrestling with dad is teaching Joel endurance and the courage to get up and try again…

What if we all lived like that, so stubborn, so naive to our past, so excited about the future… So quick to jump back in give it another chance.

As his dad I know, with every wrestling match, he gets stronger… It really is only a matter or time before he beats me…

Because…. He did not give up when he lost…

To be encouraged by Gods Word,
Check out: Luke 18:1-8

What Is A “Good Dad” Anyways…..

I was talking to my friend today and he made a comment. I have heard this comment before and I honestly do enjoy hearing it… I think most dads want to hear it…. He said “Your a “Good” dad…. Some don’t know where to start to be a “good” dad…

Well on my way home from his house I began to ask, what makes a dad “Good”… What makes a dad “Bad”…. So I made a short list… Here it is:

1. The kids know that their dad loves their mom. NOW before you go and get all upset single dads…. Single dads it matters how you treat your “ex-wife”… She birthed your kids, there are more ways than physical to show your kids you love their mom. But this is important because your kids need a solid support system, and parents you ARE the CORE of that system….

2. You Fall Forward… This is a John Maxwell illustration, the idea is this, Dads you know that your going to make mistakes as a Husband and as a Father… But make them as you are being intentional in your relationships. Here is an example, I love to take my kids grocery shopping, its a blast… I run up and down the isles and I chase Joel behind the displays…. I really make the most of my time at store/playground while buying groceries…. Some people don’t like that… Some people won’t like anything you do because nobody took the time to care about them when they were a kid, its in there defense system to be mean… So I am in the checkout line and this is something I do a lot… I take Joel and I throw him down on the checkout belt and he rides toward the cashier… Well someone took a pretty big offense to that and they yelled at me… Of course this idea of falling forward must be tamed, but the principle is the same, don’t sit back and wait for life to pass you by… Make mistakes… Do it in a way that people notice your trying to be a better parent…

3. You Have FUN TOGETHER… Just because you don’t remember what is like to be 4 years old, doesn’t mean you have to ruin it for your kids too… Be reminded of how much fun it is to be young… You wont feel old after awhile… Just a warning… You probably don’t move like you used too.. You probably will feel it in the morning…

4. BEING CURIOUS… Ever wonder why kids ask so many questions… Me either it can be annoying… lol… Just kidding.. But your kids are learning SOO MUCH because they are not afraid to ask the most important question ever: WHY?!?! As many times as they ask you, WHY… YOU ASK THEM… Its fun and it their view on the world is often refreshing!!!

5. Your kids know you love them…. Again Love its about physical touch… Its a billion times more than just words…. You cant throw gifts at kids and expect them to know you love them… They will know you love them when you value them enough to spend time with them… There is no way around that… Time=Love….. You cant make enough money to by them happiness… Happiness comes through security and security comes through relationship which is only possible when you spend time together… And when you spend time together with your kid(s) they will know you love them…

Those are the quick five that I came up with… What about you? What would you say is a quality of a “Good” dad???

OH YEAH…. What makes a “bad” dad…selfishness & Knowing what your suppose to do and doing nothing….Or acting like any of the dads you see on “Comedy” TV Shows…

He Made It To Three… Must Be Doing SOMETHING Right….

Saturday, February 16th my beautiful wife and best friend Grace celebrated the life of our now three year old Joel… This glorious day got me thinking… What are three of the most important things I have taught him over his short little life thus far… Whelp, here goes:

#1. My Daddy and Mommy Love Me:

This is a phrase that I have him repeat back to me when he has been punished, when we are playing trucks or just whenever I feel necessary…I do this BECAUSE: I don’t want Joel EVER to think even for ONE MOMENT that he is not loved… For better or worse one day Joel is going to hear that GOD is like a LOVING FATHER…When Joel hears this, I want him to be able to have a visual of what that looks like. I believe it is my job to make this illustration be the best it can be. This doesn’t mean that I allow him to do whatever he wants, no Love is correcting when he needs to be corrected and celebrating when he does what is asked. I can only imagine how his little life will impact the world because he no matter what happens “My Daddy and Mommy Love Me”….

#2. Daddy Date Time:

This is something we do, once a week I am very intentional with this. We go every week to Tim Horton’s (Because that’s where Fathers take their kids when they love them). We eat donuts and we make plans for what we will do next. He looks forward to those times and so do I!!! Here is what I hope to teach him through this activity…. We must be intentional in spending time with those we love the most… When He grows up, Joel will know (Because every week we take a picture) that his father made time every week to show him that he was VERY IMPORTANT.

#3. Apologizing Brings Freedom:

Lately, Joel will do something like, push his sister or blatantly disobey instructions. When he realizes what he has done he will often begin to pout and go into his room and sit on his bed. He doesn’t necessarily cry but he does have a look on his face that says the sky is falling. I have been trying to teach him that rather than running to his room after he has made a mistake, rather than moping around and pouting in his room, he needs to apologize for what he has done. I am trying to coach him that its not the moping and the pouting that will change the feelings of regret and shame, the healing begins with a simple apology. I am trying to coach Joel to realize that the sooner he apologizes the sooner he is free from guilt and shame. If he learns this now, nothing will ever stand in his way he will be a humble and confident man. There is nothing more humbling than saying “I am Sorry” there is nothing more freeing that a heart felt apology!

Well there you have it… Three for Three…. There are many more things I have hopefully taught him but these are the BIG THREE that came to mind when I wrote this and they are also the most consistent.

Do you have things you are intentional about teaching your children?