DO ME! To GROW! The lies of to do lists…


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Being in the ministry and working in Church, I have often struggled giving people TO DO’s.

You know what I mean:
“You want to grow in your relationship with Christ?” DO THIS….
“You want to be a better Follower of Jesus?” DO THIS….
“You want to know how to Love more?” DO THIS…..
“You want serve better?” DO THIS….

I believe I struggle with that approach because its not really that easy… If it were then everyone would have a TO DO: List and our lives would radiate God’s Love and we wouldn’t see a lot of the brokeness and heart ache we see in the world, because we would have figured out the code. If we really want to have a growing relationship with Christ that will be lasting, what needs to happen?

I remember awhile back a pastor friend of mine told me that “We are most like Christ when we serve”… That is something I think about a lot… I believe the statement to be true…

I remember when I was in High School, I would get out of class and head strait to the church (actually there were times when a friend and I would literally race there, but dont tell my parents about that), I wanted to be PRESENT I wanted to be near the action of God because I knew my faith would grow there!
What did I do you might ask… Well, I talked and listened to the pastors, I would do some paperwork for them and just try to be present and wait for an opportunity to serve to arrive…

To some, that time of my life might be confusing, You might ask yourself. Didn’t Tom have any friends, wouldn’t he have wanted to go do something else?

Yes I had friends, but, I was doing something that gave me purpose… I wanted to do something that mattered, something eternal, even if it was as small as counting up receipts for the children’s pastor.

I didn’t have a to do list. I had a desire, a desire to do something for God and I was willing to be present and wait for opportunities to move… and because of that my faith did grow, I learned how to follow Jesus and I was taught how to love others… Because I made myself present and available for God.

So… If you want to grow in your relationship with God, Get around His people, Im not saying you just have to run to the church and hang out with pastors… But you need to be around people who are serving Jesus!

*Note: I do believe in TO DO Lists for productivity, but do not believe there is a to do list for growing closer to God. I don’t have a TO DO List for my relationships… I also acknowledge that I am still a work in progress and have not arrived but rather am Growing every day closer to Jesus Through His AMAZING GRACE (Not just my wife).


Thoughts From the Leadership Summit

Are we willing to fail… To succeed??

* Sometimes it seems that we as humans are so afraid of failing at something we never even attempt to try. But this question is one that has haunted me for awhile now…. Am I willing to fail in order to succeed?

This is a question that we can all relate with.. Am I willing to look like a fool or suffer through those awkward self imposed inadequacies in order to tell the love of my life that I actually love them? Am I willing to pick up a snowboard and fall or fail on my but 10-100 times before Im actually able to do get down the hill in the assumed style of a snowboarder? Am I willing to start a conversation with someone who does not know Christ even though i feel that i don’t have all the right answers and may feel like a failure?  Am I willing to fail in order to learn how to drive a car?

Sometimes I think we play the What If game on the wrong side of the court…. We say things like what if I never did this for the wrong decisions we have made in our life…  I think maybe we should think about the What If’s from the good decisions and the good experiences of our life…. What if, We never mustered up the courage to tell that person we loved them! What if they never gathered the courage to tell YOU! What if in your failing of learning to snowboard you gave up, you would have missed out on the great time friends and the excitement of making it to the bottom of the hill in one piece, not to mention the view at the top of the mountain! Or What If’ that person never started that sometimes hard conversation with you about Jesus and what He did on the cross for us?  What if you never got over your fear of driving cars you would have missed out on the great experiences of the freedom of driving down the road and off into the sunset, going wherever you want take yourself!

It was said in the book IT… “Failure is not an option… its Mandatory!”

I think if we were honest with ourselves… we are great at failing! We do it all the time! If we didn’t we would never be GOOD at anything! We would live life in our bubble of fear crippled and unable to do anything…

So the question I ask for Leaders is this… Why if are so used to failing naturally…. Why aren’t we trying new things with our areas leadership…. What if the very thing we needed was a good fail in order to find out thats not how it is most effective with the freedom to try again!

Giving each other the freedom to fail and still love is quite possibly the greatest thing we as humans can give each other…

If we want to be effective leaders and humans we must learn to Fail and Fail Forward!